My man Rhett had told me a number of times he had enjoyed reading about men having their ass spanked, men receiving a spanking while they gained an erection from the spanking for their partner.
Telling me how men had gained an absolute boner from the spanking. An erotic spanking while they gained an absolute boner, enjoying the pleasure and pain of their spanking, sexual pleasure and pain with their partner watching. And fucking their partner afterwards. New levels of fucking after being spanked.
He told me he would love to gain an absolute boner for me while he was being spanked. My erotic, kinky side had to tell him I would love to watch him gain an absolute boner for me while he was being spanked. Two sexual exhibitionists and voyeurs fantasising about a new form of joint sexual pleasure, a really good spanking for his sexual arousal.
We watched some porno clips of men receiving a spanking from women and men while they gained an erection from the spanking. While we watched the spanking clips he told me a number times how he wanted to gain an absolute boner for me while he was being spanked.
I had never spanked a man’s ass, though the thought of me spanking his ass to help him gain an erection for me was an exciting and kinky thought for both of us. We discussed the details, the options for his spanking. What to wear? He wanted to be naked. The more we talked about spankings, the more exciting it became for both of us.
We discussed the logistics in great detail. Standing up? Laying on the bed with a pillow under his hips? In front of a mirror? What to spank him with? My hand? His leather belt? An old style school cane? A wooden paddle?
How hard did he want his spanking to be? Noisy, he wanted to hear as well as feel the pain. So did I. Until it hurt, really hurt. A non-negotiable, definitely hurt so hard it gave him an erection. Hurt so hard it left marks on his ass? Hurting so much he was screaming, in pain and pleasure? Pleasure and pain?
Huge anticipation for both of us the first time I spanked him in front of a large mirror. I was wearing my heels and a leather cat suit, trying to emulate a dominatrix. Rhett was face down, naked apart from a pair of fluffy white socks, “to improve his circulation,” he told me, with his impressive naked ass elevated with a pillow under his hips.
We were both disappointed that even my best efforts failed to arouse his large flaccid cock. What to do next time for his next spanking to give him a hard on? Someone else to spank him? Another woman to spank him? Another man to spank him? Someone kinky to spank him?
I told Jill and Margo, two of girlfriends about my man’s spanking fetish, how I wanted it to happen just as much as he did. Perhaps even more than he did?
“Would you like my man Sebastian to give your man a spanking? Would you like to see some pics of Sebastian in action?,” Jill asked me.
Oh wow, the pics took my breath away. A room with mirrors on all the walls, Jill was watching a macho, naked man standing with his legs spread strapped to an X-frame, his erection prominent, while another naked, macho man, wearing a black leather mask with a whip in his hand landed a blow on the man’s ass while a third man, her man Sebastian, was about to suck his erection.
“Do you think your man would like something like that?”
A few days later Jill had coffee with me in my condo while we discussed my spanking fetish in more detail. I quickly realised she was very au fait with all aspects of spanking.
Jill was holding my hand when she told me, “Spanking draws blood to the surface of the skin, making it really ultra-sensitive, Spanking doesn’t have to be painful or classed as a punishment, although it can get into that. Spanking is just a progression on from stroking really.”
She took great delight in passing on her knowledge of erotic spanking to me. “Erotic spanking can be both physically and mentally arousing, but everyone is wonderfully different. Trying to pinpoint why spanking is a sexual act is simply down to individual tastes. Everyone’s desires, motivations and fantasies around bondage are unique to them. Though there are some spanking experiences that are typical of those who enjoy spanking.
“For many people, bondage can be a way to experience intense emotional and psychological states they may not be able to achieve in other contexts in their lives. If you’re trying to understand why you man is into spanking, just think about the sensations, physical or emotional it brings up for him.
“If you are going to become involved in spanking it might be the thrill of the unknown and the anticipation of what’s to come. Getting spanked is one of my favourite ‘funishments', I love it, it means I’ve got so much anticipation for what comes next. It could be the sting that provides a release of endorphins and dopamine, the sensations that ripple over my erogenous zones. Or maybe it’s the relief and arousal of being controlled? And fucking afterwards.” Wow.
While she continued I was thinking about the physical and emotional sensations, the sexual, physical and emotional sensations I wanted my man to have with his spanking. The erection I wanted to watch him receive from a spanking. And fucking me afterwards.
“Spanking can be fun and exciting, but it can also be overwhelming and anxiety provoking, make sure you keep communication open before, during and after. Always remember to make sure you agree on some safe words.”
A week later on a Friday night Rhett, Jill and me were in the same mirrored room with the same two men in her pics. Rhett was naked when the two men fastened him to the X-frame. All of us brimming with sexual anticipation. We had agreed on some safe words. Green meant I like that, keep going! Yellow meant this intensity is good, stay there. Red meant stop immediately.
Jill was talking to me while we watched the man with the horse whip, the type jockeys use, paying attention to all four zones of Rhett’s ass. The four different zones she had told me about, the zones that respond differently to spanking. The tops of his lower back, the sides near his hips, the undersides, and the fleshy center dome of his ass.
Oh wow, we were underway. “Look how he keeps his spanks to the fat, nicely padded areas of his ass. The other area he is concentrating on, that is little bit more painful and sharp, on the back of his thighs.”
The man with the whip was giving each zone of Rhett’s ass some attention, while helping to provide other zones with relief. Ramping up his sexual arousal, focusing most of the spanking on the underside zone, sending vibrations up to his genital area for maximum pleasure. So good to watch, I could almost feel the vibe, Rhett’s sexual arousal. And my sexual arousal. So much more exciting than my amateur efforts.
We were in the yellow intensity, this intensity was so good. “Are you okay baby?,” I asked just to make sure my partner Rhett was feeling good.
“Yes I’m okay honey, I love it. Do you like watching?”
“I love it. Do you have an erection for me yet?,” I asked facetiously as I ran my fingers along his boner. Stroking his skin first, warming up Rhett, preparing his skin for more kinky sexual pleasure. Knowing this will make his spanking feel exciting rather than simply painful.
While Jill and me were watching, she whispered, “The number one place, the sweet spot for spanking is the ‘thutt’ – the bit between his thigh and butt. Spanking there sends those vibrations straight his sweet spots and will feel absolutely amazing for him. It’s all about location. Focus on the fleshy areas between the top of the butt and the top of the backs of the knees.”
The man doing the spanking was listening, emulating her every word as he spanked my man’s ass. Both of them breathing heavily, both of them anticipating more sexual pleasure.
“Different hand shapes have different effects. Once your partner is warmed up and relaxed, cup the palm of your hand, and begin with some soft, light spanks. Cupping the hand tends to create more of a ‘thud’ while holding it flat with fingers spread creates more sting.
You can quickly withdraw your hand after making contact to avoid adding any painful weight to the slap. Some people find that having the hand bounce back off the butt after a strike is more pleasurable for both parties, whereas others like a ‘spank-and-grab' sensation.”
Rhett was groaning in sexual pleasure and anticipation while we watched the spanker’s hand bounce back off his ass after each strike. It was so visually, sexually pleasurable, voyeuristically pleasurable for both men, and me and Jill.
Rhett had the most beautiful, big thick boner as a result of his spanking from an experienced, anonymous man, while another man, Jill and me watched. I had to fuck him right then while Jill and the two men watched. His cock had never been as thick and hard for me as it was then. His blood pressure sky high, his face flushed, his ass cheeks blood red.
I was naked, standing with my back to the wall, no need for any foreplay, Rhett’s spanking was more than enough foreplay for both of us while he fucked me. So good with Jill and the two men watching him fucking me in a frenzy, with his beautiful, big thick boner. Talking to each other while he fucked me. Both of us performing, fucking for our small audience. So good.
I had to learn how to spank Rhett, spank him to give him a boner like he had that day.
Some more advice from Jill while Rhett was standing naked with his hands on the wall for support. “There are an abundance of ways to raise your game once the spanking bug bites. When the blood is flowing the skin is super sensitive and senses are heightened.
“Explore the sensory side of things with pinwheels, feather ticklers. Use your hands, try lightly scratching or tickling to heighten arousal. Soothe his skin afterwards. If the spankee is looking a bit red and sore, use a soothing balm to calm and hydrate the skin.
“Crops, canes or whips are much slimmer, so rather than spreading the smack out across your skin to reduce the results of impact, the sensations are focused on a much smaller area. The result? More intense stinging sensations and heightened skin sensitivity.
“The cane might not look like much, but it is reserved for advanced spankers only as it provides quite a sharp sting. The reason for this is because it has such a narrow spanking surface which concentrates every bit of that spank into one thin area on the body which feels quite intense for the receiver.
“Whips can be used for anything from light strokes that send shivers down the spine, to more intense lashes that deliver a satisfying, intense sting with a pleasing ‘crack’ sound.
“Always begin with light contact to assess sensitivity levels before slowly increasing intensity according to your partner's comfort and enjoyment. Focus only on fleshy, padded areas such as the buttocks, upper legs, and lower back.
“Canes create more concentrated and intense feelings, so they require extra caution, especially for those new to impact play. With riding crops, try varying your technique by changing angles and pressure to create a personalised blend of sensations that match your partner's preferences
“Don’t underestimate the importance of post-spanking care. Your partner may be feeling sensitive and exhausted, so hold them without rushing off. Focus on reconnecting through cuddles, gentle touches, and soft kisses. A warm bath can soothe tired muscles, while ice can calm heated skin. If the area looks particularly sensitive, a dab of antibacterial cream helps prevent complications.
“It’s often a good idea to check in with each other. What worked? What didn’t? What would you like to change? You can have those conversations right afterwards or maybe a day or two later, but make sure to have them. It’s one of the best ways to make sure that the next time is fun. good aftercare transforms an intense experience into a meaningful connection.”
I had to have a spanking. After watching my man Rhett receive his spanking I needed a spanking. I was hanging out for a spanking. And a fucking after I had been spanked while my sensations were sky high.
When it finally happened a naked man spanked me while Rhett and Jill watched. Teasing my ass cheeks with his fingertips before he gave me my long held spanking. I was standing naked apart from my heels, my hands on the wall for support. Anticipating the pain and sexual pleasure of my spanking.
Confirming the code words. Green meant I like that, keep going! Yellow meant this intensity is good, stay there. Red meant stop immediately.
The man spanking me had an erection even before this strap made contact with my ass cheeks. The sting and the noise becoming more intense with every new blow. He was spacing out the time between the blows on my ass. Building anticipation and desire for me. Wonderful new levels of sexual pleasure for me. Sexual pleasure and pain as he administered each new resounding thwack on my ass. “Oh wow. Green. Yes, yes. Yes. Green. I like that, keep going. I love that, keep going. Harder.
I was trying to understand why I was into spanking, thinking about the sensations, physical and emotional it was giving me. The anticipation of what’s to come, the sexual pleasure I wanted. The fucking I wanted and hopefully needed after my spanking.
I did want and need a fucking after the foreplay of my spanking. Even more foreplay for me when the man who spanked me rubbed cream over my ass cheeks while my naked man Rhett watched, before he gave Rhett three sharp, resounding thwacks on his ass while he kissed me with his tongue.
I was so wet for him before he fucked me with his beautiful, big thick boner. Our blood pressure adding to the sexual pleasure.
Rhett and I learned quickly, heightening the sexual pleasure of our joint spankings. Stretching our sexual boundaries. For a great swing trajectory, bend the spankee over a bed, table, sofa, or chair, while the spanker stands behind or beside them. Both of us bending each other over for a great swing trajectory. Wonderful pleasure and pain for both of us before we fucked..
For comfortable, easy access to those juicy fleshy parts, get the spankee to lie with their forearms and knees on the floor or bed. This puts the spanker in a prime position for administering some resounding thwacks. The noise was a huge turn on for both of us before we fucked.